Fear is instilled by negative affirmations
One of the best ways to break the dam is to chip away with positive ones.
It can take quite a long time, depending on how deep a hole fear has chucked you into. But there is always a way out. Affirmations are excellent for our brains.
Though the saying ‘If you tell yourself something enough times, it will become true in your mind‘ has a bad rep, you can take advantage of it when it comes to your chronic fear.
“The more we have a particular thought, the quicker and stronger the synapses pass along that message. In addition, the emotions we attach to specific thoughts become more automatic and powerful the more often we repeat those thoughts. That’s how positive affirmations can affect our brain’s natural processes to alter our experience of life.
A research summary in The Indian Journal of Psychiatry addresses the power of positive affirmations, noting specifically that neurotransmitters are affected by affirmations. The brain uses neurotransmitters to communicate information continuously, and affirmations seem to set positive pathways for these brain travelers.”Rewire Me, Rose Caiola
I’m not promising that affirmations will solve all of your problems. The answer is never that simple.
However, paired with your drive to change the course you’re on, they will make a huge difference.
It’s time to trick your brain into handing you back the controls.
Affirmation 1: “I am fearless.”
This is an excellent angle at which to approach an oncoming situation. Before you even dive into that situation, possibly days before, continue to repeat this to yourself.
Because the truth is- you are fearless. Whatever is causing you to fear is a lie created by your brain. You’re not the coward here, it’s your brain. Its complexity becomes the enemy.
However, it’s never too late to remember that the fear is just smoke and mirrors.
Affirmation 2: “I will feel this fear and keep going.”
Sometimes, the fear we’re experiencing is backed up by past reinforcement. The fear we felt before is still playing out in our heads, even if the threat is no longer there.
Don’t be ashamed of these feelings. It’s simply a matter of our brain trying to protect us from the previous ‘dangers’.
Still, there is no excuse to avoid the reality of the situation. You have to press forward.
Remind yourself that you are going to feel the fear, but refuse to remain immobilized by it.
Affirmation 3: “I will feel this fear and do it anyway.”
Sometimes you get to a point in your life when you’re finally able to do something you’ve always wanted to do. Whether it be travel, move to a new city or state, take on a new sense of self.
But the fear is keeping you from actually jumping in, headfirst.
You need to understand that there is no time on this planet to be stuck where you are.
You’re either going to let fear stop you in your tracks and steal your life away- OR, you’re going to embrace the discomfort and drown them out with the joy of reaching your goals.
“The hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.”Ralph Waldo Emerson
Affirmation 4: “I am in complete control of my own vessel.”
Fear can stem from our loose grip on the world around us. This is a one-way ticket to Self-Destructive Station. You will never be happy if you think you have to control everything around you.
But get this- you are in control of yourself.
Your inner world, goals, desires, mindset, and so forth are free game. When you tailor these aspects of your life, you’ll feel at ease with the things you can’t control.
Affirmation 5: “What’s in my head is a lie.”
Whatever is going on in your brain has no backing or merit.
That situation of peril, embarrassment, epic failure, or panic is fiction. Your brain is piecing together its own lies in order to hold you back.
This over-protection is like a hostage situation for your happiness.
“90% of our worries never happen.”Margaret Thatcher
Are you going to keep the fear of the 10% get in your way?
Affirmation 6: “I am not my fears.”
I used to be ashamed of my own fear. I was constantly worrying that I was a ‘coward’ or naturally a ‘scared’ person. This was a shot to my confidence.
What I ended up realizing was that I was not born with this fear. It was a suit I put on willingly, and I had the power to take it off.
You can’t treat fear like it’s a personality trait. You are not a fearful person.
The fear in your life has become a bad habit.
Affirmation 7: “Fear is holding me back from who I really am.”
What kind of person is under all of that fear? Who would be tackling the day? Going incredible places? Achieving those age-old dreams?
Thing is, you don’t have to harness who you really are. It’s just buried under those useless worries. There’s someone incredible under your fears, and the only one who is capable of digging through is you and you alone.
The imposter has to give in eventually.
Affirmation 8: “Fear is going to destroy me unless I fight back right now.”
You need to remind yourself of this every single day. You can’t keep living in this void and wasting your life away by focusing on what is never going to happen.
And if there are some truths to your fears- you need to understand that in the end, it doesn’t matter.
Fear that is keeping you from being your highest self will do far more damage than any short-lived discomfort ever could.
Take my word for it. I let fear run my life, every single day, for five whole years. It was immobilizing. Affirmations played a huge role in overcoming them.
Don’t try to become 100% without fear. Fear is natural. Living by fear is when it takes shape as an enemy.
You can and will get through this!
Here’s a few questions before you go:
- How have you been overcoming your fears?
- What made you realize they were self-destructive?
- Where will you be when you overcome them?
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Thank you so much for reading, and take care!