Why You’re Struggling to Achieve The Life You Want

Tired of your life?

Let’s dissect.

You have goals. There’s this version of you that needs help coming out. Whether this version of you owns a business, looks, feels, and thinks better, goes further, it doesn’t matter.

This version of you is what you’ve been manifesting for years.

But it’s not the reality. For some reason, this version of you has yet to be brought into this world. You may feel like you’re spinning your wheels. Everything you’re doing- or not doing- is stepping in the way and telling you where to shove it.

There are a number of reasons why you’re trapped.

Let’s take a walk.

Reason 1: You don’t care enough

You may think that your personal development journey is your number one priority. But before you let yourself believe this, I want you to look back and pick out the times when other things overruled the development part.

You want to lose weight, but those YouTube videos are sitting in your watch later. The pile of books you want to read hasn’t been touched. No matter how much you think about it, you still aren’t downsizing all that shit you don’t want lying around your house.

These scenarios may not lie in the simple diagnosis of laziness. But one way or another, you don’t care enough about the task because you aren’t envisioning the end result.

Sure, scrolling on your phone or watching your favorite shows may give you a quicker shot of happiness, but the end result of your true goals will last a lifetime.

You need to put your personal development at a tier that takes the place of all other fleeting enjoyments.

Reason 2: You let the people in your life talk you out of action

These people range from toxic to sincerely interested in offering you advice. There are obvious differences between the two scenarios.

First off, the toxic ones. Look back on the times when you’ve listened to them. How did you feel? Lost and disappointed? Worried you missed out on something important to you? But hey, at least whatshisname is happy.

When it comes to these people and their ‘advice’ you need to recognize the outcomes and their effect on your growth. Once you get the feeling that their toxicity is a roadblock, turn a deaf ear. However, I recommend cutting them out of your life in more ways than one if they’re manipulating you out of your happiness.

Next up, the good guys. Those who you know have your best interests in mind. Out of your love of them, or even their supposed place of authority (e.g. a parent or guardian), you can’t let their opinions keep you from at least trying things out for yourself.

You’re not disrespecting anyone by trying to change your life.

Reason 3: You aren’t taking care of yourself

Both physically and mentally, your goals will harder to achieve when you feel like a slug. Toxic habits seep into our brains and affect our performance ability. I don’t need to preach to you about how this works.

You don’t need to take on harsh workouts and complex diets. Just move around and eat right, no matter how you decide to do so. Overachievers tend to skip these steps for productivity purposes- but what does productivity matter if you don’t have the energy to do your best?

Don’t forget your brain, too. Think about how this worked for you as a kid. If you thought something was interesting, you learned about it. If a book caught your attention, you read it right then and there.

Try and go back to this mindset. Soak up information whether you need it or not. Read whatever catches your attention. Take on hobbies in your spare time that help you become a more seasoned person.

These actions will improve your mood and health, therefore making it easier to tackle the greater visions.

Reason 4: You’re spending too much time manifesting

Dreams without action are just dreams. You’re never going to improve any area of your life if you’re just thinking about it. Thoughts don’t become things unless action, learning, and dedication are applied. Dreams don’t come true. The foundation built upon those dreams is what becomes reality.

Now don’t get me wrong. Vision boards, journals, affirmations, and anything of the sort is awesome. I do this stuff all the time, and I have to give credit to these tactics for where I am now (and plan to be)!

But you can’t live out your fantasies in this stage forever.

Life is fleeting. Do something now.


Nothing in your life is going to change unless you recognize the barriers in your environment. It may be tiring to face them, or even a little bit embarrassing, but there isn’t a single person on the planet who hasn’t been in this situation.

Be the odd one out. Recognize, apply, take action, and thrive, or forever suffer the doubt and regret of never having got shit done when you were able!

“Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.”

Mark Twain

Before you go, here’s some questions:

  1. Upon self-analyzation, why do you believe you haven’t achieved certain things?
  2. Do you believe that it’s fair to blame outside forces for your lack of success? When do you draw the line?
  3. What are your biggest goals right now?

Another post you may find helpful on this subject is my analysis of motivation vs willpower. Thank you so much for reading, and feel free to follow me on Twitter.

Take care!

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